Review About Book When Past is Present by David Richo

When Past is the Present is a book about Relationship psycology and it clearly describes the Toxic patterns of Relationships that we saw in our daily Life..I wonder why i always became or act childish when i love someone.Like i am childish when some girls like me ot are childish or funny infront of everyone that tries to dominate me.
It was all a Psycological Phenomena called Transferance..A good example to understand transferance is If a person with a red hat act so good to us in past then we act so nice to a person wearing a red hat even though he dont even like us..

This is same that why i act so rudely to good looking girls because of tramsferance.A good looking girl acted so rudely to me in the Past.As a result i act rudely to all good looking girls that try to start a friendship with me.This is how transferance works..

It so much affects our relationships in an unconsious level.It will affect our ability to be in "I and You" relationships rather we try to enter some unresolved conflict with a past partner with the new partner we have..We dont try to see the new partner as a person or individual..Rather she will became a projection of our old partner that will allow us to revenge against.

In relationships girls tell that boys are childish and do not act mature.This is infact the Love given by girls to boys made them think about their mother..They project their mother image to this new partner and expect Unconditional love in return.

The idea of Transferamce helps us to describe every type of relationship patterns we see in daily life..I think this book is a must read for everyone who are struggling with Relationships..

It also describes many Practises to Let go of the Past.Like the most powerfull one i red was about forgiveness.The practise of forgiveness allow us to forgive the other and let them free from our mind.Other practise was seeking for Questions or being mindfull..
Like dont act in Judgements and predicaments.Rather honestly sit and open up what is the Real thing that affects me.which helps to open self exploration..

There is lot of other practises are there in the Book.The good thing aboit book is it is easily understandable and relatable.Without strong terms it can be read and understanded on the flow..